It is unbelievable how our bodies and minds work… our wish for baby #2 came when Noëlle wasn’t even one year old yet.. While I had a very sudden delivery and rocky times after that with my first born.. I was not going to let that stop me from having more of these amazing babies.
I’m doing well.. very well! Living the mom life is the best thing I could ever wish for. Even with all the ups and downs I’m still going strong and standing on my own two feet. If I ever thought my job was hard.. haha! Joke’s on me.. Motherhood is the hardest, most rewarding thing I have ever done. Noëlle gives me so much joy and love every single day.
// Is there a right time for B#2
I’m convinced that there is never a right time for anything. We live in the moment so much that we have to enjoy the time we have on this earth and make the very best of it! To be the happiest we can possibly be. But, when it comes to starting or expanding a family I think you have to be aware of your financial situation. With us, the time is right. At the start of 2018 Sjors and I talked about having a second baby. We wanted to wait until April so Noëlle was close to one year old and we could save some extra money for a few months. I’m so excited!
// Keeping track of your cycle
I used to already keep track of my period with this amazing free app called P Tracker Lite. You insert your period days every month and it gives you an estimate of when your fertile days are ahead. You can also see your estamated ovulation day. This is kind of tricky. It is an estimate…. an idea of when you can have your ovulation. It can help you get pregnant but it is not a birthcontroll app. It says so as well in the disclaimer when you download the app. When I wanted to get pregnant the first time I used this app as well. I was pregnant the very first month and with the term ultrasound we discovered that my ovulation is actually 5 days later than my app calculated. Again, it’s an estimate.
When you are in your fertile days, the flowers appear on the tree. So cute! You can also choose from a large amount of different types of symptoms. So if you are trying for a few months, you can see if you have any kind of simulation to the days of the month. It’s also possible per day to select the little heart, meaning you’ve been intimate.
// Focusing on getting pregnant
As I have said.. with Noëlle I was pregnant within a month. So… it was hard for me to let that go and try for a couple of months.. or a year. I have to say that I was very focused on my fertile days and my estimated ovulation. Now, I know my ovulation comes later than calculated so I have to be ‘active’ after my week of fertile days. I was already on prenatal vitamins and I started using an extra folic acid supplement just for the fertile days. I read on the internet that it could help so I wanted to give it a try. What’s the harm in trying, right?!
I was very confused and scared after trying for 3 months (which, in hindsight is nothing of course) that we might not get pregnant because I had a placenta operation done after the birth of my first child. I decided that if it took more than a year to get pregnant, I would get myself checked.
After 3 months I decided to let it go a bit and not care so much about my fertile days. Just have fun and live life. If the time is right, a second pregnancy will eventually happen, so I thought.
// Take your time, girl. Relax…
In my fertile week of the fourth month, Sjors, Noëlle and I went on a little trip to Hengelo in Holland. Sjors had some work to do over there and we were happy to accompany him. But I realized… how would we be intimate in a hotel room with only one bed and no other room for baby No to sleep in? We placed her with her travel bed close to the door so she wouldn’t wake from any noise. I enjoyed those days away from home. I was a relaxed mama, I took care of my child in a relaxed manner. We went to dinner, had some wine and a lot of fun! I wasn’t focused on fertile days anymore and just… let go.
It’s not always good for you to worry about things that might not happen or go any other way that you want them to go.. I was so focused on getting pregnant that I lost the joy of the moment. Now, I’m curious. I can’t be the only woman out there that focuses so much on what she wants, right? Let me know in the comment section!